Empty Nest and Loving It

Within three weeks of our youngest daughter leaving home for college, we were sitting at the beach in Cabo San Lucas.  As our friends have gone through the same transition from having kids at home to being empty nesters, we’ve seen two typical transitions.  One, like ours, where the couple starts dating again and enjoying the freedom that it offers.  And the second, which always saddens us, is when, after spending years devoted to the children and their activities, the couple wakes up to find that the only thing they had in common was taking care of the kids and they drift apart and often get divorced.  Happily we couldn’t wait to start spending more time together because not only are we husband and wife, but we’ve always been each other’s best friend.  So, as sad as we were to drop our daughter off at college, we were excited to start having more adventures and we were off to Cabo.

Arch at Cabo
Arch at Cabo
Sunset over the Pacific Ocean
Sunset over the Pacific Ocean

We’ve said this many times, but we truly prefer to travel in the off season, so our trip to Cabo was in late October.  Our parents, who are avid travelers as well, had given us a week using their timeshare and this would be our first experience using a timeshare.  We flew into the Los Cabos International Airport, which is located in San Jose Cabo and is about a 45 minute taxi or shuttle ride to Cabo San Lucas.  This was our first trip to Mexico, we’ve been there several times since, but seeing the armed federal police officers all over the airport was unexpected.  You deplane outside and then walk into the airport to go through customs.  Somehow we managed to go through a wrong door into a room with all of the luggage.  There was a large glass wall between us and the room to go through customs with a door where a policeman stood.  We went to walk through the door to get into the other room and were quickly and abruptly told that we had to exit the way we came and go in the correct door.  No arguing with a man with semi-automatic rifle.

Dinner on the Beach
Dinner on the Beach
Infinity Pool at Villa Del Arco
Infinity Pool at Villa Del Arco

We made it through customs and were prepared for what we would face next, which was the gauntlet of timeshare salesman claiming that they will take you to your resort.  We’d been warned in advance and walked through, ignoring the fervent pleas to provide us a ride, and made it to the taxis and shuttles.  We chose to take a shuttle, which is cheaper, but you share the shuttle with several other families and couples, so it takes a little longer as they stop at the various resorts until they reach your resort.  As you get closer and closer to Cabo San Lucas, the ocean and the resorts start coming into view and it finally starts sinking in that you’re about to spend a week in paradise.  We were staying at the Villa Del Arco resort and from the moment we arrived, we knew we were in for an incredible stay.

Villa Del Arco
Villa Del Arco
Suite at Villa Del Arco
Suite at Villa Del Arco

Resorts in Cabo San Lucas aren’t like resorts in most other tourist locations in Mexico, they have a height restriction on resorts near downtown, so you don’t have these giant monstrosities along the beach.  The result of this is that the resorts are smaller, with fewer crowds in the resort and on their private beaches.  As we checked in, we were told that if we attended the one hour timeshare sales presentation we would get discounts in town and some vouchers for the resort.  Having not been through a timeshare pitch before, we accepted and were off to have a tropical drink while our luggage was taken to our suite.  Once we got to our suite, with its gorgeous view of the ocean and the famous arch in Cabo San Lucas (El Arco de Cabo San Lucas), we were truly impressed.

Arch at Cabo San Lucas
Arch at Cabo San Lucas
Private Beach at Villa Del Arco
Private Beach at Villa Del Arco

The following morning, we went to our timeshare tour where we were shown the different rooms of the resort and then taken to breakfast with our sales person.  Afterwards, we went to the sales office for the closing pitch.  We had told ourselves before we went that, no matter what, we were going to say “no”, this was just to get some free stuff.  Even though we’d only been there for a night, we were in love with the resort.  It wasn’t an easy decision, but after much debating and the sales manager sweetening the pot, we decided to buy what would turn out to be our first timeshare.  After the stress of making the decision to purchase, we were off to the pool and the pirate ship bar and restaurant located in the center of the pool.  We have swam laps around that ship/bar many times now and it is one of our fondest memories.

Pirate Ship Bar
Pirate Ship Bar
View from Our Room at the Villa Del Arco
View from Our Room at the Villa Del Arco

Another great thing about Cabo is the close proximity to town, restaurants, and the marina.  We love going to the restaurants and asking for the fresh catch of the day and having it prepared specially for us.  Cabo is also famous for the marlin and other sport fishing, so you can catch some fresh fish and take it to the restaurants to prepare for you and your guests.  On this trip we discovered walking down the beach from the resort to town and the marina provided us with many beach bar opportunities with drinks almost always on special and ceviche, guacamole, and fresh seafood always in abundance.  Walking from the resort to town to see the famous Cabo Wabo bar or haggle with the beach and street vendors for trinkets to take home is an easy twenty minute walk and some nice exercise to offset the time spent sitting pool or ocean side eating and drinking.

Cabo Wabo
Cabo Wabo
Marina at Cabo San Lucas
Marina at Cabo San Lucas

It was the first of what has been many happy trips that we’ve had since becoming empty nesters, but obviously holds a special memory in our hearts.  Not only did we become timeshare owners, but we fell in love with our home resort, the Villa Del Arco.  Most importantly, if it was possible, we became even closer by sharing another travel experience and have been back to Mexico several times since.  For those of you that aren’t empty nesters yet, take our advice, don’t forget to be a couple and foster the things that brought you together, the things that you have in common, the things that will fill your lives when raising the children is no longer your number one priority.  You’ll always be parents, there will always be advice to give and wisdom to share, but hopefully you’ll do that while filling your lives with adventure.

Our Favorite Poolside Waiter
Our Favorite Poolside Waiter
Lover's Beach
Lover’s Beach

A Tale of Two Vacation Styles

Not surprisingly, as our lives have changed so has the way that we take our vacations.  When we were younger, our vacations were all about the kids.  We refer to those days as the time when we took “education vacations”.  It was all about museums, national parks, and an occasional amusement park.  Now, as we’ve gotten a little older and the kids are off on their own adventures, our vacations are more like the honeymoon we never had.  Sometimes we might spend all of our time sitting on a beach or by the pool, not moving much except to grab a drink or head to a restaurant for lunch or dinner.  Other times we like to wander the streets of an unknown city, stopping randomly to grab a bite or have a drink at a local watering hole while we’re on our way to some special attraction.

Old Time Family Photo
Old Time Family Photo

We really enjoyed the vacations we spent with the kids, although budgets were tighter in those days, so many of our vacations were dictated by places that were within driving distance for us.  It didn’t matter how much we may have had to tighten our belts, we always felt that it was important for the kids to see different sights and learn interesting facts about the world and the country we live in.  We would drive to Mount Rushmore, Yellowstone, Roswell New Mexico, or just travel around the beautiful state we live in, Colorado.  Some trips were more elaborate, like driving to Vegas and then onto Disneyland and California, or visiting Washington DC, Williamsburg, or Philadelphia.  One of the things that we always tried to do to make the trips more memorable as well as educational was to get the kids involved in activities when we traveled.  We have wonderful memories of the kids digging for fossils, going on ranger led hikes, or enjoying guided tours in the museums.  Another tradition of ours was that we would always go out for at least one special dinner while we were on vacation and we would let the kids try whatever they liked, the only rule was that they had to be willing to try new and different things.

Standing in Front of the Louvre
Standing in Front of the Louvre

Nowadays we basically have two types of vacations.  We are either heading to a place of complete relaxation such as the beaches of Cabo San Lucas, Puerto Vallarta, and Punta Cana, and to the mountains to relax in Beaver Creek, Aspen, and Breckenridge.  The second type of vacation, which is our favorite, is to travel to locations that are more exotic such as India, Morocco, Spain, France, and England.  Wherever we go, our goal is to live like a local the entire time that we’re there.  Even in locations such as India and Morocco, our goal is to try different local dishes every day.  One of the best ways to enjoy as much food as a destination can offer is to stop at several restaurants, grabbing small bites at each one, instead of sitting down to a large meal at a single location.  We want to understand the culture of the people who surround us and attempt to learn at least enough basic phrases to meet, greet, and ask questions of those we meet.  It only takes a little effort on our part to make some new friends and feel like we truly immersed ourselves into a new world.

We look forward to sharing some of those past adventures with you over the coming weeks and months as well as sharing some of the restaurants and locations that we’ll be experiencing in the very near future.